For GUYS only: 30 minutes to better…

Communication. We all know that it’s the key to a healthy relationship. When I’m talking to guys about communication they say, almost to the man, “I suck at communication.” Their wives chime and and say, “Yep, he sure does.”

For some reason guys hate to use the word ‘communication’ in the same sentence with ‘wife.’ For some reason guys think that engaging in or mentioning communication is going to instantly make them metrosexual or something.

That’s not true. If you get a pedicure and talk about your wife’s day then…just kidding.

Guys, listen up. You can revolutionize your marriage if you’ll take 30 minutes a day to ask your wife about her day. When you take 30 minutes to ask about your wife’s day a lot of things get better. Her stress level goes down. You’ve become a better human being and husband. You actually begin to understand and “get” her world. You begin to communicate about more things like money and how you should discipline as a couple. Trust me on this one. The more you talk to each other, the better your whole marriage gets. Yes, even sex. But that’s another blog post. Maybe.

The Question
So here’s what works for me and Michelle. On her way home or my way home, one of us will call and ask The Question…

“So, how was your day?”

This is The Question that can revolutionize your marriage. Commit right now to asking this question to your wife at the end of each day. Right now. Repeat after me… “I will ask The Question.” Your wife will thank you and, well, you know that calling your wife on the way home is safer than texting or Twittering while you’re driving.

So here we go. Guys, when you call and ask The Question you have got to be ready. She’s gonna unload the wagon. She may not take a breath. You may think that it’s not humanly possible to unload that much information in that short amount of time. It is humanly possible and she will love you for it.

Just do the following while she’s talking. At key times, respond with an appropriate “Yes” or “I understand.” But the key phrase that you must say is “So what you’re saying is…” When you say that phrase, it proves that you’re really listening. When you’re not listening and trying to catch what Hannity just said, she’ll bust you.

When you actively listen by using the techniques above, you’ll prove that you’re no metrosexual. You’ll prove to her that she’s married a loving, caring, interesting and sexy hunk of burning love.

Communicate guys. That’s what studs do.

If you’re a phone nazi and won’t talk on the phone in your car then carve out the first 30 minutes you’re with your wife and ask her The Question.